Separated or divorcing spouses in California who still have minor children at home know that one of the biggest challenges they will face is finding a way to effectively raise their children with a person they are no longer a partner with. It seems a bit illogical to expect that two people who could not find a way to remain in a relationship together could become effective co-parents but it is possible with the right steps. When done well, co-parenting benefits the children and the adults.
As explained by Thrive Global, when divorced parents collaborate effectively together, their children see them modelling healthy behavior. Kids also see that both parents are active in their lives and this results in children feeling more secure and safe than if they sense one or both parents have checked out to some degree.
Another way that positive co-parenting can help families relates to discipline and boundaries for the kids. When children live in two different homes, they may try to play one parent against the other by saying to one that the other parent allows them to do things they want to do. When co-parents collaborate and set consistent rules in both homes and the kids know parents agree on these, a united front can prevent many battles.
Talking Parents adds that a healthy relationship between former partners can leave each person with less stress. This lowered stress level translates to the way they interact with their kids and facilitates a more positive environment for everyone.